Is it really better to have loved and lost than never....

Just as oxygen is necessary for the human body to stay alive, being in love is necessary for the human spirit to feel alive.  After air and water, love is the most essential quality humans need if they are to thrive.  Newborns not held and cuddled often die. Children not emotionally nurtured with love and warm caring grow up disturbed and dysfunctional.  Intimate adult relationships not fostered by genuine love and real passion turn into battlegrounds of betrayal and reckless behavior.

While falling in love can make you feel like you're on the greatest high - suddenly you don't need food or sleep to survive - all you need is love ! To fall madly in love could be exactly that – madness. For the term "lovesick" it turns out, is surprisingly accurate. People experiencing romantic love have a chemical profile in their brains similar to that of people who suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder. Love lights up certain areas of the brain and releases chemicals that provoke hyperactivity, recklessness and exhilaration. That's why we can stay up all night and feel brilliant the next morning. Love, it seems, does blur the line between mentally healthy and psychopathology.

Being in love masks heavy sorrow and pain. It is the most powerful high and anyone that has experienced that joyful bliss will be hell bent on getting their love fix again and again and again. Enough is never enough. So much so that falling in love with love, really is our most toxic addiction. And since bad love can be  so toxic to the human spirit, it can turn into the most powerful lethal weapon one human can use against another, to murder even or suicide, love and the loss of love is in fact, the true gateway to every street or prescriptive drug known to mankind.